so, uh, i've embarked once again on the road to self-discovery.
my first coaching session was last night and i already have homework:
list 5 emotional requirements i ask from relationships (hard!)
list 10 mistakes i've made in relationships and any lessons i've learned (i've actually already made this list)
...
there was a moment during my chatty blathering my need for a coach when she said, 'Ms. Ding, you know that coaching isn't therapy; we aren't here for therapy and the framework is different. but sometimes it's necessary to deal with things in a client's past that might help illuminate the present. well, i think we may have to do that in your case. are you ok with that?'
'uh, sure. like what patterns?'
'your intimacy issues.'
'they're like neon, aren't they?'
'mm, yes.'
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So, coaching is more active rather than reflective? Why choose a coach rather than a shrink (cognitive-behavioral therapy, for instance)? I ask out of purely selfish-maybe-need-a-shrink-to-deal-with-family-stress reasons.
yeah, coaching is more goal-oriented. i could talk and talk and talk all i want but i need to do something, you know?
i'd worked with a coach before about writer's block issues which led to my going after this job and so now i thought that there were things to take care of on the non professional side.
(did you know there's now coaching for the dissertation process? i SO wish i'd had that when i was in school.)
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