But she still needs to rebuild her relationship with her kids (to undo all that has been done - and said, and reassert her maternal authority), and she is now officially a single mom. Things will be tougher; everything will be a negotiation with her ex and there's always the risk that he just won't face reality, turning this into 'Not Without My Daughter, Mexico edition.' But for now, she is free!
Her strength has been phenomenal and even when tiny wavers shook her spine, she stood through a lot -- threats to her livelihood, her reputation, her family and my long distance, outraged haranguing -- and came through. Yay, sis!
More importantly, now I don't have to wage a stealth campaign against MABIL.
(maybe when it's not this late, I'll write about what my sister's divorce case has shown me about the inherent sexism of the Nice Guy Who Thinks He's Nice But He's Only Nice As Long as You Do Everything He Says.)
6 comments:
Great news! MABIL sounds awful.
AWESOME!
@djbtak - trying to be as fair as i can...MABIL, when you're not married to him, is ok. his worldview is narrow and he's totally clueless about women, but - again, when you're not married to him - he's generally not a total freakazoid.
He's just a guy - an unreflective, patriarchal, brainwashed, ultra-religious guy.
@Joy - isn't it? so relieved.
WAHOO!!!!!
ps: if that qualifies as "just a guy" we are in terrible trouble. Oh wait.
So glad for your sister.
Yeah I married one of those too. The moment I wasn't sleeping with him the gloves came off.
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